I've been thinking about how we treat rest days, and honestly, we've got it backwards.
We act like rest is something we earn after we've worked hard enough, pushed long enough, or proven ourselves worthy enough. We apologize for taking time off. We feel guilty about a lazy Sunday. We scroll through our phones on our one free evening, too exhausted to actually rest but too wired to sleep.
Rest isn't a reward. It's a requirement.
Your body doesn't care how many items you crossed off your to-do list. Your nervous system doesn't track your productivity metrics. When you're running on empty, you're running on empty—and no amount of coffee or determination changes that fundamental truth.
Here's what actually works: treat rest like any other non-negotiable appointment. Not "I'll rest when I'm done," but "rest is part of getting things done."
This might look like:
- Ending your workday at a set time, even when there's more to do (there's always more)
- Taking your full lunch break without checking email
- Saying no to plans when you need a quiet evening
- Sleeping in on weekends without feeling like you're wasting time
The hardest part? Rest feels unproductive because it is. That's the entire point. You're not supposed to optimize your downtime or turn relaxation into another achievement to unlock. You're supposed to stop.
And yes, sometimes rest looks like doing absolutely nothing. Sometimes it's a nap at 2 PM on a Tuesday. Sometimes it's canceling plans you technically could go to but don't want to. That's all valid.
Your worth isn't measured by your output. You don't become less valuable when you rest. You become more human.
Start small: this week, take one guilt-free rest period. No apologies, no justifications, no "making up for it later." Just rest because you're a person who needs it, not a machine that doesn't.
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