You know that feeling when you can't fall asleep because your brain decides 11 PM is the perfect time to remember every awkward thing you've ever said? Or when you wake up at 3 AM and suddenly you're solving problems that don't even exist yet?

Your mind isn't broken. It's just doing what minds do when they don't have a proper off-ramp for the day.

Here's what actually helps: create a simple wind-down routine that signals to your brain that thinking time is over. Not some elaborate spa ritual—just consistent, boring activities that your mind learns to associate with sleep.

Try this progression:

Dim the lights an hour before bed. Not pitch black, just noticeably darker. Your brain produces melatonin in response to darkness, so give it a head start.

Put your phone somewhere you'd have to actually get up to reach it. The blue light matters, but honestly, the endless scrolling and emotional engagement matter more. Your brain can't wind down while you're reading arguments in comment sections.

Do something genuinely unstimulating. Read something light (preferably physical books or an e-reader). Do a simple puzzle. Fold laundry. Listen to a boring podcast. The key is that it requires just enough attention that your mind doesn't wander to your worries, but not so much that it fires you up.

Write down tomorrow's top three priorities on paper. Just three things. This isn't a comprehensive to-do list—it's a brain dump so you stop mentally rehearsing tomorrow.

What doesn't help:

Trying to force yourself to relax. That's like telling yourself not to think about elephants. The pressure creates more tension.

Expecting this to work the first night. Your brain needs time to learn the pattern. Give it at least a week of consistency.

Making the routine too complicated. If it takes more than thirty minutes or requires special equipment, you won't stick with it.

The reality check:

Some nights will still be rough. You might still have occasional 3 AM wake-ups. That's normal. The goal isn't perfect sleep every single night—it's reducing the frequency and intensity of those nights when your brain won't cooperate.

If you've tried this consistently for a month and nothing improves, talk to your doctor. Sometimes sleep issues have underlying causes that need professional attention. There's no shame in getting help.

Start tonight. Pick one or two elements from this list. Just show up and be boring for thirty minutes before bed. Your brain will figure out the rest.

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