March 20, 2026

I caught myself mid-sentence this morning, about to say "I always forget my tea until it's cold." Then I paused. Always? Really? The mug in my hand was still warm. Yesterday's cup I drank while it was hot. The absoluteness of that thought felt familiar, comfortable even—but not quite true.

It's strange how easily our minds reach for these sweeping declarations. "I never," "I always," "everyone," "no one." They give us a sense of certainty, a solid place to stand. But when I actually stopped to notice, the ground felt less firm than I expected.

I sat down with my warm tea and listened. The radiator ticked softly as it cooled. Outside, a bird called—three short notes, then silence, then three more. These small sounds had been there all along, but I'd been too busy constructing my narrative about cold tea and forgetfulness to hear them.

The mistake wasn't forgetting the tea. It was forgetting to check whether my story about myself was actually true. How many of these stories do I carry without examining them? "I'm bad at names." "I'm not a morning person." "I always rush." Some might be accurate. Others might be old conclusions I've simply stopped questioning.

I wonder what shifts when we soften these edges. Not "I always forget," but "sometimes I forget, and sometimes I don't." Not certainty, but curiosity. It feels less solid, yes—but also lighter, more honest, more open to what actually is.

Here's a small experiment if you're interested: Today, notice when you think or say "always," "never," or "I'm just not." Don't judge it, just notice. Then ask yourself: Is that completely true? What's one small exception? Sometimes the stories we tell ourselves need updating.

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