#solitude

The coffee machine jammed this morning. Grounds packed too tightly, nothing more. I noticed my jaw was already clenched before I'd registered any irritation at all — body ahead of the narrative again. That's the sequence I keep finding: sensation first, then a small story assembles itself ("of course, of all mornings"), and then the feeling arrives as if it needed the thought as permission.

May Day. I haven't decided what I make of that.

Eleven days into the screen experiment. The parameters, as I set them: no backlit screens after 21:30, a paper book instead, and then in the morning I sit for a few minutes and notice whatever is present without trying to name it prematurely. The results are less dramatic than I half-hoped. Mornings feel different — not sharper exactly, but less cluttered in the first twenty minutes. My shoulders are lower. The back of my eyes, which sometimes feel gritty by midday, haven't done that this week. What I can't yet separate: whether it's the absence of the screen, or the slower ritual of the final hour, or simply the fact that I'm paying attention at all. The Hawthorne problem, as always. I'm leaving the question open until Sunday.

The morning light filtered through my window in a way that reminded me of something I'd forgotten—how silence feels different depending on the quality of light. I sat with my coffee and noticed the steam rising in slow spirals, and for a moment I just watched it instead of reaching for my phone. It's a small thing, but it felt like reclaiming a few seconds from the rush of wanting to know what happened while I slept.

Later, I was reading about the difference between solitude and loneliness. The author suggested that solitude is chosen, while loneliness is imposed. But I'm not sure it's that clean. Sometimes I choose to be alone and still feel lonely. Sometimes loneliness finds me in a crowded room. Maybe the distinction isn't about circumstance but about how we hold our own company—whether we judge ourselves for feeling what we feel, or simply notice it without needing to fix it immediately.

I made a mistake this week. I interrupted someone mid-sentence because I thought I knew where they were going. I didn't. What I learned wasn't just to listen better, but to notice the assumption I was making—that my version of their story was the right one. It's humbling to realize how often I do that, even in my own head. I finish my thoughts before I've fully had them.