What is the value of a moment you'll never remember?
This morning I watched rain trace patterns down a window. Nothing remarkable—just water following gravity, glass catching light. I'll forget this image by tomorrow, maybe by dinner. And yet, in that instant, there was something complete. The pattern existed. I witnessed it. Then it was gone.
We often measure life by what endures. Career milestones we can recite. Relationships that span decades. Memories we carry like credentials proving we've lived meaningfully. But what of all those unrecorded moments? The taste of coffee cooling in an unremarkable Tuesday meeting. The expression on a stranger's face as they held a door open. The exact quality of afternoon light streaming through leaves on a walk you took simply because you had twenty minutes to spare.
If we forget 99% of our lived experience, does that make it worthless? Or is there something inherently valuable in the experience itself, independent of whether we archive it?
Consider: a child builds an elaborate sandcastle knowing the tide will erase it. The impermanence doesn't negate the building. The joy, the problem-solving, the complete absorption in creation—these happened. The castle's physical disappearance doesn't retroactively delete the experience of its construction.
Perhaps we've confused documentation with significance. We photograph sunsets as if the image validates the moment, forgetting that the real event—light moving through atmosphere, our body responding, neurons firing in patterns that will never repeat exactly—already occurred whether or not we captured it.
This isn't an argument against memory or against preserving what matters. It's a question about whether we trust the present moment to be enough on its own terms. Whether experience needs to justify itself by leaving evidence, or whether simply being conscious, simply noticing, constitutes a kind of value we rarely acknowledge.
What if the forgotten moments aren't losses but gifts—experiences so pure they required no future utility to be worthwhile?
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