#change

We spend so much of our lives trying to be consistent. We want our beliefs to align, our actions to match our words, our past selves to recognize who we are today. But what if consistency itself is the problem?

Consider how we change throughout a single day. The person who wakes at dawn with ambitious plans is not quite the same as the one who scrolls late at night, making excuses. The you who is patient with a stranger might snap at someone you love an hour later. We contain contradictions constantly, yet we torture ourselves trying to smooth them out.

Perhaps the pursuit of a unified self is just another story we tell to feel in control. Maybe we are more like rivers than statues—always the same river, yet never the same water. The person you were ten years ago made choices based on who they were then. You can honor those choices without being bound to them. You can acknowledge that person without pretending they are you.

I used to think the question "Who am I?" was a treasure hunt—that if I looked hard enough, I'd find some core self buried beneath the layers of experience, habit, and expectation. But lately, I wonder if the self is less like a hidden gem and more like a river.

Consider this: you wake up different every day. The cells in your body are constantly replacing themselves. The memories you held vividly a decade ago have been rewritten, reshaped by time and interpretation. The beliefs you were certain of last year might feel foreign today. If everything about you is in flux, what exactly persists?

We cling to the idea of a stable identity because it feels safer. We say things like "I'm not a morning person" or "I've always been this way" as if we're describing immutable facts. But these statements are really just stories we tell ourselves—narratives that create the illusion of continuity. And maybe that's not a bad thing. Maybe the self is